Friday Thoughts – Call Me Mom or Call Me Sister

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A few nights ago, as I was sitting down for dinner, mom suddenly raised this question – “where can we adopt a little boy?”

Huh? What? A little boy? If I was drinking a mouthful of water, I would’ve spat it right out. She went on to talk about wanting to co-raise a child with me. “I want to make him the next Elon Musk.” She said.

Co-raise?

I can tell you right off the bat I have the complete opposite view as my mom when it comes to parenting. I don’t believe in molding a person into the image of my choosing. I believe in the freedom of letting the person choose what they want to be when they grow up and what they want to do with their lives. Maybe that will make me sound like a bad parent? I guess that’s why I’m raising plants and not an actual human being. Plants aren’t as fussy as humans.

Have I ever thought of adopting a child?

Sure, but I also know parenthood isn’t something to dive head-first into. It isn’t like buying a house or a tree or a head of lettuce at the grocery store. That’s why people are usually given 9 months to prepare, right?

I’ve chosen not to have one of my own for health reasons, my own health and the child’s as well. When I visited the geneticist years ago, he told me my health conditions will be passed on no matter what. Therefore, I don’t want to burden my child with the health problems that’s currently burdening me and will burden me for the rest of my life. I think that’s the responsible thing to do.

Still, it doesn’t mean I have no desire to ever become a parent. I have thought of adopting a child and perhaps more and more in the last few years as I’m getting older with no beneficiaries to my Will or my fortune.

But co-raising a child with my mom? I want the child to call me Mom, not sister and for him/her to have “moms” makes it sound like my mom and I are married, which doesn’t sound right. When we had the conversation a few days ago, she’d made it clear she wasn’t going to be a grandmother. She’s going to be a mother and the child would be my sibling. Also, she wants a son. I want a daughter. I’ve had enough trauma living with my male cousins.

Will I give into her whims?

I don’t think so. As lovely as the idea of me being a mom sounds, I’m not ready both financially and mentally. Maybe I’ll never be ready. I sure hope this is just another one of mom’s many whimsical ideas.

21 thoughts on “Friday Thoughts – Call Me Mom or Call Me Sister”

    1. I don’t like this idea. It’s pure crazy but thought to share the thought. It’s not a good idea to raise any creature in such an environment as the one I am in.

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  3. Wow! That was random! And also, ABSOLUTELY NOT! 😀 Raising a child together sounds like a horror! And I think we all desire to be different from our parents in raising our own children. Mom’s just gonna have to accept being called Grandma and be ready with that ice cream money.

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