Sunday Poser #209 – Regrets

Published on by Yinglan

What do you regret not doing, being, or having in your life?

Do you have any regrets about your past? Anything you could have done differently or might have chosen a different path?

I have written about regrets many times before. The most recent post being this one. Even though I write more than I should on regrets, I feel like I cannot let go of past regrets until I’ve written about them or talked with someone about them. Writing about them or talking about them is almost like I’m releasing my regrets into the world, thus freeing myself from them.

Of course I could have done something differently to change the outcome but what’s point of analyzing it or imagining how it would turn up if I hadn’t screw up?

Like with choosing a career path, which was one of my biggest regrets of this lifetime, sure, it could’ve gone differently but at what cost?

Let’s talk recent regrets…

I have been investing in stocks for about a decade now. I’ve always trusted my gut and research when it comes to buying and selling my shares in stocks. Lately though, I don’t know why but I’ve been listening to my mom, who’s been listening to YouTube on when to buy and when to sell specific stocks.

Recently, I made the mistake of listening to her and sold my shares at a 50% discount price because the company was in trouble. “Better than get out now,” she said.

Part of me wanted to stay and take the risk while part of me was telling me to play it safe. I lost around $2,000 in the sale. A week later, the stock bounced back and I ended up hating myself for it. Why oh why didn’t I trust my gut that the company was going to pull through?

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14 thoughts on “Sunday Poser #209 – Regrets”

  1. Investment are the situation of risk and very hard to play the stock market. It must rankle that you lost a lot of money. But taught you a lesson to trust your own intuition next time. Thanks for sharing

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  2. My friend, who invests, said don’t sell, they bounce back, but I have no bravery when it comes to shares.
    I would have bought gold in the late seventies if I had the money or / and the bravery. I didn’t on both counts.
    Next time, follow your own gut. You should have bought more perhaps while the price was lower. My friend said this is how fortunes are made, but it is not for my delicate brand of nervousness.
    Good fortune I wish you.

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  3. I don’t know how to say this tactfully, but I’d perhaps listen to your mom less. Pushing you to finish HS in two years…pushing you into Civil Engineering…now financial “help.” Maybe go with your gut more and say kindly “I’ll take it from here, Mom.” 😎❤️

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    1. My mom is someone who’s very persuasive. She’ll literally lecture you into listening to her. Saying kindly isn’t an option as she may drop it for just a moment but she will come right back to get you to buy whatever she’s selling. It’s very annoying and something I have never been able to shake.

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  4. I’m a safe player when it comes to finance and will take a lower interest rate for the convenience of easy access to our savings. I bought shares in a bank years ago and when I needed the money, sold them but at a loss of about £50. Not a lot by today’s standards, but I only had £400 of shares so percentage wise took a hit. I’m in awe when people understand the stock market and do well with their investments, but I’m not that brave a risk taker.
    Follow your instincts. Listen by all means, but you don’t have to carry their advice through.

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    1. I remember I had sell a portion of my investments at a loss when I had to pay for my braces. It took a long time to recruit that loss.
      I think my instincts for these things are mostly right though. I just need to listen to it and start ignoring my mom.

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  5. I stay away from stocks, but real estate can be just as iffy. Investments are a great regret for most of us. I was late in life to my career choice, but I finally got there. It was a hard road, but well worth it.

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    1. I’ve been through real estate investment, not personally but through my mom, and swore I would never invest in such things. As for stocks, I blame my finance education class in high school for getting me hooked in stock investing in the first place.

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      1. Wow, I never had a class like that. Vince did some investing when we were first married. He did well for a while, then it all disappeared. I don’t like losing money, so that was the end of his playfulness. We did have my retirement account invested with a professional investment, and we lost a large amount at one time during the course of time. But most of it came back by the time I was ready to retire. We chose to take it out of that investment and started investing in real estate with it. We did well, but not fabulously. We also tried silver, which wasn’t great.

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      2. I think the class was called “Financial Readiness”? It was one of the many elective classes I picked to fill my day. There was a project in that class where we were given $100 and we got to spend it in stocks. Picking which one to buy was hard but watching the values go up and down is addictive.

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