Do you intervene when you see a situation developing?

Do you step in when you see a need for intervention in a situation developing? Do you think we should do so if the people involved are strangers?

Here is my short answer: it depends.

My long answer: there are so many factors involved. Is it physical? Who is involved? Are the people involved older than me? Bigger in size than me? Will I get hurt? Will they be mad if I’m involved? Will there be a lecture or scolding afterwards about me meddling?

I can say most of the time, I don’t intervene because 1) people don’t take me seriously because of my appearance and 2) people will just tell me to mind my own business, which is something I (or probably anybody else) don’t like to hear when I’m the one stepping into other’s business.

I have a story about conflict intervention, which you can read by clicking on this link.

Long story short, we were having a family Christmas dinner when mom said a bunch of hurtful things about me to her siblings as if I wasn’t there. Hurt, I interrupted her, wanting her to stop but she continued – citing that it’s a free country and she can say whatever she wants. I ended up storm off in a literal rainstorm.

Mom’s siblings could’ve intervened and supported me but no one chose to. They had all sided with her. Out of fear? Because of their brother-sister relationships? I don’t know, though I later found out they all sided with mom and it’s sad and disappointing to know they would always side with her no matter how wrong and hurtful her words are.

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