Share Your World – Week of August 5, 2024

Published on by Yinglan

Do you like decorating or would you prefer to have someone come in and do it for you if you could afford it?

If it’s interior decorating, I would prefer it if someone can come and do it for me. That is if I can afford it, of course. I don’t have a very good eye to match wall colors to furniture nor do I have a good sense of furniture placement. Right now, the furniture pieces in my house are so incredibly out of style and out of date that they look like I just picked up bits and pieces of furniture from somebody’s garage sale.

Totally not my idea.

Do you prefer papered or painted walls in your home?

I prefer painted walls. Wallpaper feels so… 80’s and vintage.

Where do you go when you want to be alone or have some quality Me Time?

I like to go for a drive to be alone with music from my phone playing from my car’s speakers, preferrably up into the mountains where is about 10-15 degrees cooler.

If you buy a treat for yourself (say a box of chocolates or a bottle of wine) do you like to share?

I’ve often been told not to be selfish and share but guess what, it’s not selfish to want the whole thing to myself when I have so little of it. It’s also not selfish to not share when all I get is complaints about my strange taste in food.

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  3. It’s totally not selfish to treat yourself savoring every crumble or sip to one’s self!!

    I have been purchasing a bottle of wine to treat myself. Last spring, I decided to invite a married neighbor lady with a grown mentality disabled adult child. I had invited the lady to join me for a glass of wine thinking the adult child would stay home with her father and allow this lady some freedom without the attachment on her arm. Allow herself some free time to relax and for us to get to know each other. I didn’t say all of that. I did say, “Mildred, would you like to join me for a glass of wine?” via text. She said “Yes, I will be right over.” She did not ask if she could bring her daughter and or her husband. I expected only Mildred. She showed up with her daughter and her husband remained at home. (I had observed Mildred leaving the house many times without her daughter, leaving the daughter with the husband or even at times alone. The daughter was able to be alone at their house.)

    I repeated the invite several times over the spring. And the same result: Mildred arrived with the attached daughter. I thought it would be rude for me to specify that the invite was only for her to join me. After a few months, I realized that Mildred never reciprocated an invite for me to join her with anything.

    I stopped inviting Mildred to join me. Am I selfish?

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    1. I can relate to Mildred. Poor gal, probably has to look after both the husband and the daughter. I have a friend who kept trying to invite me to her house but I declined her invitation because she has 2 toddlers in the house and I don’t feel comfortable with her toddlers, particularly because I witnessed her son was constantly jumping and grabbing the phone when his mother and I were trying to talk on the phone. I’m also not comfortable inviting her over because my mom doesn’t like her.
      With that said, I don’t think you’re selfish at all for stopping the invitation but I s’pose you can call Mildred and maybe ask her privately of why her daughter must come along?
      Believe it or not, my mom used to do the same thing to me – make me tag along when her friends invite her to their house – until I started declining the invitation and if she still want me to come along, I would then tell her to be with her own friends. It’s very annoying particularly because I was an adult then (in my late 20’s) and her friends would still treat me like a little kid, telling me what I should and shouldn’t do.

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      1. Hi Yinglan, Mildred’s daughter enjoys my Yorkie and wants to visit us is the reason why she brings her daughter. I live by myself with Yorkie. From our conversations, I understand that Mildred doesn’t insist that her daughter tags along anywhere as she is old and competent of making her own decisions regardless of being a mentally challenged adult. When I am sitting out on my front porch with Yorkie her daughter will stand at the edge of their driveway looking at us. She wants me to bring Yorkie over for her to pet. And I have done this a few times. Her smile gets so big and she is filled with so much happiness. She isn’t able to verbally communicate much, but she communicates by her behavior.

        My time spent with them was not wasted time. It gave me a lot more of knowing their family dynamics; of who are my neighbors living diagonally across the street.

        I too felt sorry for Mildred with what I could observe from my property. I had hoped that by inviting her over for a glass of wine that it would provide her a brief relief from her care taking family situation, even if it were only for an hour.

        I also learned that I don’t need private time with Mildred. I’m happier sharing my wine time with Yorkie, even if it makes me more comfortable to do so inside or on my back patio. They still do a friendly neighborly wave hello as they come and go in their daily lives. And that’s good enough for me.

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      2. Being mentally challenged is a tough thing to deal for both family members and outsiders because of often misunderstanding in behavior and the frustration that leads from not understanding what the person is trying to do.
        Despite not being a mentally challenge person, I sometimes feel like that with the family because I was raised in a completely different culture and country as them and sometimes, they make fun of my actions but often times, I get frustrated by them because I don’t understand why they are trying to do what they’re trying to do.

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