Do you ever compare yourself to others- achievement-wise, or where they are in life? 

Do you compare yourself with others- in what they have, achievement- wise or in other respects? Do you think it’s healthy to do so- maybe it gives people an incentive to work harder?

My mom used to compare me with her high school classmates’ kids and it did not make me feel good at all. In the group, I’m often viewed as the “ugly duckling”. I’m shorter than normal people, not as good looking, and people see me as someone who’s still dependent of my mother, which, in reality, I’m not. Her comparing me to other people felt like a punch to the gut because she’s comparing me to someone I can never be, no matter how hard I work.

Thankfully, in the recent years, my mom has somewhat stopped comparing me to her friends’ son or daughter. Even if she did, I now somehow come out the victor. I’m not sure how I’m feeling about this yet. I’m definitely not feeling the flattery, though.

I try not to compare myself to other people. I feel like by comparing myself to someone else, I’m not being a genuine version of me, instead, I’m trying to make myself into an imitation of someone else. If I want to achieve the same thing as someone else, I will do it my way and not try to mirror others.

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