#WeekendCoffeeShare: In Hopes of a Miracle

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Good Sunday morning! Welcome to another weekend of #weekendcoffeeshare. Come in for a cup of steamy hot coffee, tea, cocoa, or whatever. I’m still doing the coffee with unsweetened almond milk thing.

If we were having coffee, I would apologize for the mess on my kitchen counter. My aunts and cousin arrived last Wednesday (four days ago) and still haven’t put away their stuff.

Remember I mentioned last weekend about enjoying my last three days of freedom? Well, initially, I half thought this time would be different. I thought my aunt would be a little open-minded by now, a little more adaptable to new environment, and would be prepared to her new life in the U.S.


After four days, I feel like shipping both of my aunts back to China. My cousin’s okay. He’s cool. He can stay. My aunts, on the other hand, let’s just say, I feel like I have been placed under a microscope. My every action had been harshly judged during the past four days. It’s like someone had gone away and made two copies of my mom.

“You run like a crab.”

“Don’t do so many steps per day. You’ll hurt yourself.” That one really annoyed me because I’m not doing anything extreme, just my standard daily 30 minutes run/walk on the treadmill. It makes me feel like they don’t want me to exercise because they fear I’ll get skinny and can no longer be called a “fat girl”.

Or maybe I’m just being paranoid…

Or maybe the sudden constant crowd in my home is getting to me because I’m an introvert and I don’t do crowd and it’s been just me and my mom for the past 17 years.

Or perhaps my aunt’s (mom’s second sister) reluctance to adapt and change is getting to me. Maybe it’ll eventually get better? But for now, she seems to require everyone to stick to a meal schedule of breakfast at 8 am, lunch at noon, and dinner at exactly 6 pm. I haven’t stuck to her schedule though. I had to skip two meals so far because I was simply not hungry and I’m used to fasting.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you my mom is helping my cousin to pick out a college, from which he will earn a second Bachelor degree. No one is helping him to pick out his major though, lucky guy. None of them wants my cousin to have any regrets. His father picked the major for his first degree for him and he didn’t enjoy it one bit.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you I’m looking forward to next week. Why? It’s Christmas. It doesn’t matter if I’m the only one in this household that actually celebrate the true meaning of Christmas. Christmas is Christmas and there’s no way I’m becoming a version of Scrooge just because none of the other people under my roof doesn’t celebrate Christmas.

I’ll be crossing my fingers in hopes of a miracle.

If we were having coffee or whatever hot beverage of your desire, I would tell you thank you for dropping by and I will once again try my hardest to come back in 6 or 7 days.

32 thoughts on “#WeekendCoffeeShare: In Hopes of a Miracle

  1. Gosh introverts desperately need quiet recharge time! I can only imagine what anxiety you’re dealing with, though you love your family dearly. Thank you for inviting me to coffee; I’ll be sure to keep positive vibes going your way in hopes that you find peace soon.

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    1. Yeah, my household went from just two people to five in a day and will stay this way permanently. I see a lot of day trips and searching for positive quotes in my future.


  2. Great to read about your life again. Sorry I’ve been MIA the the last month and a bit. I remember saying before your Aunts and cousin were coming from China for good. While it’s great you and your mom can finally do this, I feel badly that you have to put up with so much nagging and inability to adapt. Perhaps time will approve this for your Aunt. I’m happy your cousin can do asexond BA he likes and get a job in a field he more enjoys. Maybe some of the courses from his first degree can count towards this degree as some general credits that most university need about almost anything. That would be nice too. I’m hoping things calm down, especially withnChristmas coming. Hope you are well and able to get away for a nice hike or two soon. Try hard to ignore their unthoughful comments & good for you for maintaining your steps & your health. You know what you need, not them. I’m glad your cousin is nice though. An allie!

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    1. I think my cousin might not get his first degree evaluated since getting admitted for a second bachelor degree would mean not qualifying for financial aid. I think he’ll just start over as a freshman.
      I might take a trip this weekend but a hike would have to wait until the spring since it’s too cold for me to hike at the moment. I sure hope I can get away though. Crossing my fingers.

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      1. I hope you can get away too. That would be really nice for you. Good luck to your cousin. You’re right, getting the student loans probably works better at this point. Hopefully, he can breeze through a few options then. Off to see Fantastical Beasts 2 tomorrow, than a hockey game Saturday. I’ve never been to one in our new arena, but my brother works with some good companies and gets good tickets for free sometimes, so that’s awesome 🙂 Take care.

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      2. It’s a good one Yinglan you’ll enjoy it forsure. They’ll be a3rd one coming soon too I think. I enjoyed the hockey game a great deal. My team lost, but boxed seats were amazing. We had a full meal with a few appetizers, turkey and Christmas dinner, and a few alternatives like pasta (a yummy resorts), and some Asian inspired cuisine with beef and vegetables. I think that was my favorite. My brothers company rep paid for the drinks, & the the seats were comfy leather & close enough to the ice that you could see well, but the sound was muffled a bit under the booth so it wasn’t quite as loud. If you ever have the experience or chance to box seats for any professional league sport, so worth it! I’ll remember it for a long time, & it was so nice to talk to my brother. I don’t see him as often as us like as we get older. My dad was supposed to go with him, but had plans, so I was really glad. I
        Great experience b/c I will probably never get boxed seats or seats that near the ice in my life again 😂 I hope you enjoy Christmas with your family and that it’s fun despite the frustrations. Hugs 🤗

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      3. I’m sorry your team lost. I can imagine the box seats are amazing though. One of my friends recently won herself box seats to a basketball game. Afterwards, she said, “I’m never going back to regular seating.” 😂
        There’s a 3rd installment? That sounds great. I hope they keep that world going. I’ll have to go see it at one of those theaters that plays old movies since the movie is now two months old.
        I hope you have a Merry Christmas with your family too. 🤗

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      4. Thank you Yinglan. You’re right, it is 2 months old. But was still in the new theatres here as it was popular and an okay family movie as school is out etc. could be at new or old where you live. I agree w/ your friend, it is very fun to amongst the crowd sometimes too 🙂 Enjoy the rest of your time off my friend.

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  3. Hi Yanglin – once again, I’m sorry your relatives seem to exist only to torment you. I think your mom and her sisters are simply broken somehow and, lacking a strong miracle – will never be normal. I think Salvation would work wonders for them, but they may be so broken by their lives and history that you may never see it happen. So sad, because you seem like such a pleasant gal who makes the world a better place for those around you – only to get jabbed by those who should be your biggest supporters.

    It’s almost Christmas. In your shoes, I know what I would be asking for. Blessings lady.

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  4. The miracle happened! I’m glad you recognize it and keep your Christmas spirit. Maybe some other smaller miracles will happen when some time passes and your aunts see how responsible you are. I hope your cousin insists on having his say in what he wants from college. Aunts can make as many mistakes as dads can. But one can never learn too many things. A lot of credits will be accepted on the second degree I’m sure. I guess his first BA is from China, right? Sounds interesting. Keep us informed. Merry Christmas.

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    1. Yes, my cousin earned his first degree in Electrical Engineering from China. Unfortunately, due to lack of interest, he didn’t end up doing so well in his classes. So hopefully, he’ll choose something to his interest and do well and I agree, one can never learn too many things.

      I’m sure hoping for small miracles. Anything will work. Until then, I’ll keep praying my aunts and cousin will make a quicker and smooth adaptation of life in the U.S.


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