Here is a conversation I had with my mom last week. I’m trying hard to let go of the conversation because it made me angry how little trust my mom has in me nowadays. So I’m writing it down.
Last week:
Mom: Your aunt’s friend is pregnant and she will be coming over here to have her baby.
Me (thinking): Oh, great. Another person to add to the seven people who are coming to stay at my humble abode. But why though? Didn’t they get rid of the one-child policy in China?
Mom (continues): You don’t know her. (She tells me the friend’s name)
Me: Sure I know her. We went together on vacation last year in China.
Mom (surprised): Are you sure?
Me: I’m sure.
Five days later:
Mom: I verified with your aunt. You do know her friend.
Me (thinking while staring at my mom): Um, thanks? Oh, thanks for not trusting me, mom.
Moments later…
Mom: Do you remember when you went to Guangzhou all those years ago to get your travel visa to come to the U.S?
Me: A little.
Mom: Do you remember if you had to stay at a hotel overnight in Guangzhou.
Me: No, we never stayed at any hotel. It was a one-day trip.
Mom (arched brow): Are you sure?
Me: Yeah, I’m sure.
Mom (leaving a voice messge on WeChat): Hey, sister, when you took my daughter to Guangzhou, did you stay at a hotel?
Me (thinking): Really, mom? Really?
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Strange Yinglan forsure & frustrating for you. But also kind of funny to read. These are such tiny details, so I don’t know why she’d think you’d not tell,the truth about them? Nice you get to see your cousin & hopefully she’s having the baby in hospital, not your house or that will be right at your house lol. 🤞😉
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I don’t know either. I feel like she’s never really trusted me, at least not 100%. I sure hope my aunt’s friend’s is not having her baby at my house.
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Haha! Me too!
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*eight at your house
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IMHO, i think you need to put your foot down and leave your mom. If things don’t work out for her, on her own, let her go back to China.
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*sigh if only I have the courage to do such a thing and unfortunately, she can only to China as a visitor, not to live.
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If she has the means to support herself in the U.S., then you have the courage. If she doesn’t have the means, you need to get very tough and open up about getting away from her. Or you can stay miserable.
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I sure hope she’ll have the means to support herself without a job since she’s planning on quitting the army and going part-time with her current job. I think the only option left might be for me to get married.
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Why do you have to get married to leave your mother? This isn’t China!
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Because she said once, “I will move out when you find yourself a husband.”
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That is psychological abuse. You can’t dominate people like that in the U.S.A. If you own the residence, she cannot “make you keep her there.”
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Hmm… good point.
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Ugh! That would annoy me too.
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Wow, tough situation. I hope you can see your way clear of the drama. :0(
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I don’t think there is anything to see, I guess all I can do is write it down and try to forget it ever happened.
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😞
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