#WeekendCoffeeShare: It’s been a while…


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Good Sunday morning! Thank you for joining me for another edition of #weekendcoffeeshare. Come on in and enjoy a cup of instant coffee with me.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you it feels like it’s been a long time since my last #weekendcoffeeshare. The weather had changed quite a bit since the last time we gathered. There are probably over a foot of snow in the mountains while the temperature in the valley plunged some thirty degrees from the lower 80’s-degrees-Fahrenheit to the lower 50’s almost overnight. I am hoping I will be able to make one last trip before freezing-cold winter hits.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you I have been keeping my posts short and precisely fiction and photos for the past few weeks because I wasn’t sure that I was ready to share what has been going on in my neck of the woods. It still feels rather complicated at the moment. All I can say is I haven’t moved out and still looking for a place while trying hard to keep peace.

I went to look at an apartment two weeks ago. I contacted the leasing office the following week. After putting me through a game of million questions, a robotic voice told me the representatives at the leasing office are currently busy and asked me to leave a message. I did but no one called me back. I emailed them and days later, I received an automatic message saying thank you for my message and someone will contact me soon.

It’s been two weeks and no one contacted me. I believe in God guiding me through life and him sending me signs. If that’s not a sign from him, I don’t know what is.

Then there’s my finances. I checked my bank account a few days ago and found after paying off my credit cards, my account’s nearly drained. If I moved out, how am I supposed to pay rent, utilities, and deposit? The worst part is I can’t do anything about it. My current job is already taking up the majority hours of my days, how am I supposed to work a second job?

If we were having coffee, I would tell you I’m still looking for an apartment in case she threatens me for the third time. Third time’s the charm, right? I spent last weekend putting a majority of my clothes in storage containers that hopefully when the time comes, I won’t have to spend a lot of time packing.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you my dreams have been incredibly vivid the past two nights and both scared me badly. One of the dreams even made me jump out of bed and ran to turn on the lights. After some googling, I discovered both of the dreams meant changes are coming.

What changes? Hmm…

If we were having coffee, I would thank you for joining me this week and hopefully, I will be back this weekend.

9 thoughts on “#WeekendCoffeeShare: It’s been a while…

  1. I’m sorry Yinglan. I can tell you I very much relate at the moment, to finding the right place. Maybe you can endure a couple of months until you can save up enough for the deposit & first couple of months rent. I know it’s hard, more since your mom’s condition, but keep looking & saving for that right place, & if it comes up take it! Frankly, if you can’t live in the house dueto our mom, she should be paying the mortgage and at the very least all the bills, taxes, etc. Hope things improve you and that you’ve had some funtime too.

    My issue is making enough money to pay all my bills. I have $ in a GIC, and even if it was disability settlement $, I’m not allowed to have over $25, 000 not in RRSPS or TFSA’s in Canada, not to receive rent support. I find it a vicious cycle sometimes, I’m saving that $ to put down on a condo in 4 yrs, but they want me to take it out to pay my rent for the next years.If I do, that I’ll lose almost half of it to rent, including utilities. I can stick most of what remains in my TFSA (Tax Free Savings Account). But, it’s not the same as having half of what I would originally had. So, trying to figure stuff out. At the moment I can work casually, not quite part-time, but it’s just not enough to pay all the bills.

    So, that’s my struggle and I think yours is harder b/c things have at least calmed down for me at home. Keep going, you’ll be able to be Independant and more at peace soon enough. 🙏😊

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    • Hopefully in the upcoming months, when I finally pay off my credit cards, I can finally be able to start saving $500 per month again. I totally agree, sometimes, those little things like not able to receive rent support if there’s a certain amount in the account can come back and bite you from behind.
      Thank you for reading and commenting and I wish you the best in your journey to buy your condo. 🙂

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  2. Hi Yinglan, I’m so sorry that this struggle remains for you. For what it may be worth, I would advise great care in trying to assign circumstances to God’s guiding. I know he does this, but so does chance or worse, our enemy. Better to pray about your circumstances and find a small group of trusted believers who can give you objective opinions of what you’re thinking. I wish there was a clean formula for situations like this, but I’ve never seen one. Hang in there. Keep praying for His will to be done and try to be clever in honoring your mom – even when she seems to go out of her way to make this difficult. You remain in my prayers for some kind of resolution to this situation. Warmest regards.

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