As a child did you listened to your parents? Was mom/dad always right?
If you can, do share how it was for you when you were growing up; did you always listen to your parents and accepted their authority?
Hang on, was I ever a child?
I had about 7 years of childhood before it was robbed from me. I was forced to grow up much too soon. I had to learn to take the blame for others’ mistakes while trying not to break while others’ were trying to break me. I had to also learn to live with a constant spark of hope even though that spark is dim sometimes. It was not easy growing up, especially during the three years between mom leaving for the US and when I came to the U.S. but I think I am a stronger and more independent person as the result.
My aunts and uncles introduced so much fears and trauma into my life that I now have to live with it for the rest of my life. Sure, I have forgiven them but can I ever forget? I don’t think I can. Mom always says I only remember the negative things from my childhood. Unfortunately, when bad events overshadows the good, it leaves an imprint that can never be wiped clean.
Recently, Mom has been touting to her friends that I am the role model of someone who listened to her. She tells her friends because I listened to her, I have 2 degrees, a good job, a healthy saving, and a house. Inside, I was laughing. Look where that has gotten me?
Somehow, I feel like if I’ve done the opposite, I might had led a happier life, a life with more freedom, and perhaps more love. Sure, I might not have as much as I do now in monetary value but like the song says, “Money can’t buy happiness.”