A-Z Challenge 2016: F for Friendship

Published on by Yinglan

Friendship Quote

You kinda knew I would do F for friendship, didn’t you? So anyway, I can definitely relate to this quote .

As I’ve said on day three of this challenge, I visited my friend, Kat during spring break. At her home, there were posters of pretty girls taped against her kitchen wall, she said it’s there to serve as her inspiration. I avoided looking at that wall during the remainder of my visit. Looking at pictures of half-dressed girls made me uncomfortable.

That night, after finishing my regular TV hours, I returned to my room to check my texts. Kat had flooded my tablet with texts about how she wanted me to do the Master degree program with her and then we could open a tax firm. Then the following text became about how I have to diet and lose weight, then about how I have to fix my teeth with implants, and how much I need a nose job.

The texts reminded me of my mom and how she’s constantly trying to plan my future for me not to mention, she criticizes my appearance too. It made me wonder, is Kat embarrassed by how I look? When I decided to be her friend, I didn’t realize it would require a change to my physical appearance. I guess what I’m trying to say is like the quote says, I’m not looking for anyone to fix me. I don’t need to be fix or my future planned for me. I just need someone who will be there for me.

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29 thoughts on “A-Z Challenge 2016: F for Friendship”

  1. I relate so precisely to this, it’s not even funny. I’m currently in a fight with three friends because they don’t understand that I need them to be there, not criticise on everything. I guess life will filter people out.

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    1. Thank you. I need to find a better friend and not someone who is super desperate to be friends with a random person. That’s who my friend is right now, she approached me and immediately wanted to be friends with me. I need to make friends on my own accord.

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      1. I agree… you seem to be a very likeable person, so I doubt you will have any problem making friends with a person of your choosing. Whenever I have struggled to find a close friend, I have always asked God to find one for me and he has always answered. So don’t be afraid to pray for a good friend. I’m sure one will show up in no time! 🙂

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      2. I know, right? I have struggled to make friends for so long because whenever I meet people face-to-face, I freeze up and cannot speak or I’ll start shaking all over. So I often choose to sit in a corner and pray that someone will come and talk to me.

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      3. That’s normal at first… but sometimes you have to say to yourself, “What do I have to lose?” Think of what you want to say before you go up to the person and be prepared to speak to them. The more you do it, the easier it gets. I’m like you though, I’m really a very shy person and it takes a lot for me to get up the nerve to go and talk to somebody. It’s so hard…

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      4. It’s indeed hard. I remember I used to rehearse every word I want to say a dozen times before talking to the person I want to talk to and then when I’m in front of that person, I open my mouth and that’s it, no words come out. I really need to practice how to relax.

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  6. An adorable photo… punctuated by some very poignant thoughts and feelings of your recent experience. I’m sorry you had to go through that… but it can be a character builder… and I have an idea it will be for you. I am impressed with the thoughts you express and the feelings you share. If I were younger I’d offer to be your cheerleader! Let your stature be the content of your character… and you’re gonna do just fine.

    Galen

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    1. Thank you. It was a strange experience for me, to have someone tell me I need to change my appearance because no one has ever done that before. So I was surprised and maybe a little insulted by how blunt she said it but nonetheless, I just politely accepted it.

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  10. This is not a good friend relationship. This person is dis-satisfied with herself, and wants to make everyone else feel just as bad as she feels about herself. It is bullying. I’d say stay away from her. Being polite is one thing, but in this case, just no…say no and mean it. You’ve just met her and she comes on so aggressive already, and spamming you with disparaging remarks…uh-uh… Sorry, Yinglan, that’s how I see it, and I may be wrong, and ultimately it’s your decision to let her invade your life or not. I do care about you and want the best of everything for you. xo

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    1. Why do I keep having this kind of friendship? It’s not the first time I’ve had this kind of friend and I guess I’m just the kind of person who doesn’t want to make people feel bad.

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  11. I don’t know. If it seems to be a pattern with you, maybe next time you see the therapist, you can bring up the subject. Could be they will have some suggestions for you. I know we don’t want to make others feel bad, but you have to look out for your own self too, and this person is making you feel bad, it seems, since you are questioning the friendship. Hope it all works out for your best interest. xo

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