Ramble about Being Smart


How would you respond when someone tell you, “You’re very smart”? Continue reading “Ramble about Being Smart”

Second Time is Easier?


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Have you ever hear of the phrase, the second time will be easier than the first time? This saying did not hold true for me yesterday. Continue reading “Second Time is Easier?”

What’s in a Name?


Did I tell you about the time when I had to make the decision of whether to keep my Chinese name or take an English name? Continue reading “What’s in a Name?”

Essay: Why Introverts Make Great Leaders?


My public speaking class officially came to an end this morning, after I turned in all the research I conducted for my speeches and receive the grade from my final speech along with a great big donut. My finance class will end tomorrow and then I hope I can finally take a breath before my corporate tax class starts next Monday. In the least to say, I’m happy with the grade I got for my public speaking class because who wouldn’t be happy with an A? 🙂 Anyway, here is my second speech and please note this is a persuasive speech.


Why Introverts Make Great Leaders?

If I were to ask you to picture a stereotypical leader, what qualities would immediately spark in your head? According to an article in the ASCA Newsletter, most people would immediately picture someone confident, brash, and outgoing. Were those the qualities you thought of? If yes, then you’ve pictured a classic extrovert. From my last speech, I talked about an experiment done to compare the effectiveness of an introverted vs extroverted leader. The results were that the stores with an extroverted leader earned a higher profit than the stores with an introverted leader. So does this mean a company shouldn’t hire introverts for leadership positions? In my opinion, as an introvert, I think companies should hire introverts for upper management positions and in the next 4 minutes or so, I’m going to talk about the pros and cons of introverted leaderships as well as what can the companies do to close the gap between introverted and extroverted leadership.

The ASCA Newsletter article, 7 reasons Introverts Make Great Leaders, says that introverts make great leaders because they are great listeners and are usually calmer and better prepared than extroverts. They often prefer to collaborate rather than telling others what to do, unlike extroverts who prefer to lead. Also introverts don’t typically settle on a single idea. They like to explore deeper for alternatives and will explore until they are satisfied. In addition, introverts prefer solitude to reflect and theorize on ideas and if they’re not doing those things, they’d write.

However, everything always comes with a downside. For introverted leaders, it is that they prefer to be alone and they prefer not to be the initiator of conversations and social interactions. Therefore, it is sometimes difficult to brainstorm with an introvert. Also introverts prefer one-on-one conversations rather than speaking to a group. Lastly, according to an article by J.G. Skakoon, a consequence with having an introverted leader is that the introvert’s performance can be impaired by distractions whereas distractions would go unnoticed for an extrovert.

So what can a company do to close the gap between introverted and extroverted leaders? To cancel out the cons I just spoke of? Well, a company can rethink open-plan offices despite many studies suggest that open-plan offices tend to lead to counterproductive behavior. Or a company can provide separate meeting rooms to reduce distraction as well as allow employees ample time to prepare for presentations. Secondly, companies should encourage employees to think like an introvert, allow them quiet to reflect on ideas. Finally, companies should allow introverts to shine! Companies should allow introverts to perform tasks normally done by an extrovert. Employees should encourage to show patience when introverts speak, to allow them the time to think before speaking. Lastly, leaders should be allowed to choose their team members.

So why should companies hire introverts for leadership positions? Because instead of jumping to conclusion and into the task, introverts are good listeners of ideas and quiet observers as well as they often go beyond a single idea. Now that you’ve heard all about the pros and cons of an introverted leadership, does it cause you to rethink the image and qualities of a stereotypical leader?

Poetry: Mother’s Day


Since it’s Mother’s Day, I’ve decided to re-post this from last Mother’s Day, May 10, 2015. It’s an old poem I wrote. Hope everyone’s enjoying their Sunday and Mother’s Day.

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Sometimes, when I’m working and I’m bored, random thoughts would invade. Yesterday afternoon, the random thought of Mother’s Day brought me to search my archived files. Years ago, I dabbled in poetry and songs (I wanted to be a singer back then).

Of course, I wasn’t very good at it. Anyway, upon searching my poem collection, I came across this little something-something about mothers. I have no idea what the heck it was that inspired me to write this. Reading it, I kept giggling, thinking it’s so cheesy.

Since it’s Mother’s Day, I’m throwing it out there. I’m sure it’s not as good as some of you poets out there. It’s supposed to be a song. Please no judging.

You gave me life
You watched me grow
You let me live my life
Like it was meant to be
You never ask much from me
You just want me to be okay
 
Now I’m standing here
With my arms wide open
I want you to know
That I’m here for you
And this is for you
 
So let me give thanks
For all that you taught me
To help me survive
To help me grow
And helped me find my dreams
 
I am standing here
With my arms wide open
And I want you to know
That I’ll be there for you
When you need help
Because this is for you
 
You helped me go through
Tough times, happy times and sad times
I just want you to know that
 
I’ll standing here
With my arms wide wide open
And want you to know
That I’ll be there for you
When you’re down, when you’re sad
And when you need my help
Because this is for you
This song is for you

Reflection Over Coffee #19


Okay, this is the last episode before this show goes on a break. That’s why I decided to do a cross-over. So I can do one comic for two shows. That’s right, The Foreshadower will be going on a break as well. The comics will be back in 4 weeks, after all my finals and the A-Z challenge is done.
Continue reading “Reflection Over Coffee #19”

A-Z Challenge 2016: C for Change


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Did I tell you about my new friend, Kat? I met her in school a few weeks ago and at first, I was very happy because making friends had never been easy for me and it’s been a long time since I’ve had a friend. We hit it off and during spring break, I secretly visited her. I’ve been doing so many things secretly lately that I’m starting to get a rush.

Anyway, her home was extremely simple, few furniture and decorations. However, I noticed she had a few posters of pretty girls taped against her kitchen wall. “What’s up with those?” I asked.

“I want to be like them.” She replied right away. Why, I asked her. “I want to be beautiful!”

At that moment, I felt puzzled. She’s already beautiful. She has a husband who loves her for her, who allows her all the freedom she desires, not requiring her to go to work, let her buy whatever she desires, so why would she want to go through the trouble of changing her appearance?

Click here to catch up on my latest A to Z Challenge entries. 

Image Credit: Google

Reflection Over Coffee #18


For the first time ever, my real-life friend, Kat, is a special guest the show. This conversation about how she’s stressed out actually exist and not in my imagination. We texted back-and-forth and I borrowed the texts and translated into dialogues which made this comic extra easy to do. Hope you enjoy.
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Reflection Over Coffee #17


You would not believe what happened last week at school. Everyone’s telling me to vote vote vote for them!
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All About Conflicts


No Foreshadower today. I know some of you are really looking forward to another episode but I just didn’t get to it even with my week-long break. So instead, I’ll post the comics I did this week for my Behavioral Management class’s group project. It is all about the chapter we are set to present on Thursday, Conflicts. Hope you enjoy.

The links for each comic is below the image, that is if you’re having trouble reading the texts.

Third-Party Intervention
http://bitstrips.com/r/CD3NK
Work-Family Conflict
http://bitstrips.com/r/17Z4K
Conflict Resolution
http://bitstrips.com/r/6094K

Reflection Over Coffee #16


*Yawn* so sleepy. I think I have post-spring-break sickness. Couldn’t spring break last just a bit longer?
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Nature’s Art


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This picture was taken at Valley of Fire State Park in Nevada last September. I stopped there on my way home from Las Vegas. It was incredibly hot that day, almost 100°F and it was dry heat so every breath I took in burned in my lungs. I enjoyed the desert landscapes anyway.

I’ve chosen this picture to represent this week’s photo challenge and discover challenge because I believe the word, harmony, has a lot of different meanings. In my mind, harmony is a group of people, animals, and even objects come together in peace and create something amazing and to see, well, that’s invoking a sense, right?

When I look at this picture, it reminds me of this. In a way, this desert landscape is a work of art created by mother nature and this is how I see it:

Each time a gust of wind goes by, a group of sandstone particles would volunteer to surrender their place, they would choose to explore elsewhere even though they knew that once they leave, they’re never coming back. Over time, as more and more of these sandstone particles choose to move on, to travel and find a new home by means of the wind, a gaping hole would be in their places and sooner or later, the rock will look more and more like a block of Swiss cheese or it will transform into a peculiar sculpture that looks like the upper half of a man’s body.

Daily Post Photo Challenge – Harmony

Daily Post Discover Challenge – Blogging the Senses

Reflection Over Coffee #15


This week is spring break and I’m trying to decide what I want to do. Maybe I shouldn’t do anything. Continue reading “Reflection Over Coffee #15”

The Final Straw


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Last night, I wanted so bad to hurt someone, something. Punch a hole in the wall. Rip my pillow in half. Throw everything at the wall. But I couldn’t. Damn that sentimentality. Continue reading “The Final Straw”

Reflection Over Coffee #14


My gosh! What a mess my co-host made last week but I fixed it. I liked the colors and stuck with it. This week’s edition is all about cleaning up. Have a great Monday and enjoy. 🙂
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Reflection Over Coffee #13


Happy President’s Day to people in the U.S. We get an extra day for our weekend. Woo Hoo. For that reason, I am ditching this week’s Reflection over Coffee (shh, don’t tell my co-host) and let my co-host, Angela take over. I’m sure there’ll be plenty of surprises. I just hope Angela won’t mess up the stage. I wouldn’t want to return next week to a train wreck. 😉
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Reflection Over Coffee #12


Happy Chinese New Year and welcome to another edition of my comic series: Reflection over Coffee. I want to thank those who have been following this series as well as welcome to new readers. I hope you enjoy this series and as always, the one with the black hair is me.  Continue reading “Reflection Over Coffee #12”

Reflection Over Coffee #11


I want to thank those who have been following this series as well as welcome to new readers. I hope you enjoy this series. Note: the one with the dark hair and clothes is me.  Continue reading “Reflection Over Coffee #11”

Reflection Over Coffee #10


This series has officially taken a turn. Due to the responses from last week, I have updated the series’ title and banner. Also, instead of me yapping my mouth off, I am going to let my comic book characters take over. I hope you enjoy this. Continue reading “Reflection Over Coffee #10”

I heard my voice


I have never watched a video of myself. Often times, I’m behind the camera, not in front of it. When I visited China more than a decade ago, I didn’t have a camera. Continue reading “I heard my voice”

Coffee House Ramble #9


In order to keep this series fresh, I have decided to take a different approach this week. I am going to perform the whole episode in the style of a comic strip. I hope you enjoy. Continue reading “Coffee House Ramble #9”

Coffee House Ramble #8


Weekly Coffee House Ramble

I would first like to apologize that I cannot be here today. I will most definitely be in my upper level Statistics class at the moment, probably counting down the 50 minutes until when I will be getting out to go to the bookstore and blow a few hundred bucks on textbooks. To tell you the truth, I would rather be in bed. I am not at all used to waking up this early.

But what can I say? All my classes this semester will be in the morning which means I will be getting up before dawn Monday to Friday. Weirdly, on the other hand, I’ve been looking forward to this semester. You may ask, “Why?”

In my heart, I have a feeling this semester will be different than the last. It will be better. For one, I am not taking any accounting classes this semester. I am taking business classes instead like management, marketing, information system, and of course statistics. For another, it’s just me going to school this semester, mom’s not tagging along, attempting to make my life miserable. She will pretty soon be working from day to night and I’ll be pretty much alone at home. I will get to have the car. I will get to stay at school for as long as I want and won’t have anyone texting me when I’ll be home. I just wish I get to go anywhere I want without mom knowing.

That will come at a cost though. Everything comes at a cost. Mom will be cranky and irritable. She doesn’t want to work and yet money’s her best friend. Don’t look at me, I didn’t tell her to take so many jobs.

I’ve made myself a promise at the end of last semester that I will enjoy this semester, that I will make an effort to make friends, to social, to network. I just hope I can live with this promise.

In case you missed last time:

Coffee House Ramble #7

Coffee House Ramble #7


Weekly Coffee House Ramble

 

Hey, what was up with last week? I was so excited but you never show up?

Didn’t you read my post? I was celebrating 1000th post and I thought I’d do something memorable.

Oh, and I’m not memorable?

No, I didn’t say that but you are a weekly event and I need something that says “Special announcement!” Anyway, how was your break?

Eh.

That bad, huh?

[shrugs] So it’s the new year, you got any goals? Resolutions?

[shrug] I used to make New Year Resolutions but it seems like the more I make them, the more I promise myself to do something, the more I would end up not doing it. Like last year, I told myself, “You will exercise, keep exercising until you reach your ideal weight.” I think I did it a week or at least until my body was so sore that I could barely move and I just gave up. You can see that I have a problem with commitment.

You can do that again this year, just keep telling yourself and maybe now that you have a treadmill, it’ll be easier. Didn’t you say you had to drive somewhere else to go to the gym? [Nodding] Well, now you don’t. Maybe you’ll finally achieve your ideal weight. 

Okay, I see you’ve got a good point there. Maybe that was the obstacle all along. Maybe I will finally reach my dream goal. For now though, I think my main goal of 2016 is to finish my degree and graduate college for the second time. So do you have any goals this year?

[laughs] I’m in your head, remember? Your goals are my goals.

[laugh] Oh right.

In case you missed last time:

Coffee House Ramble #6